Time out!!

Today was totally crazy. I had to go to the drs office and so i made breakfast for Farah and made her sit in the sofa and gave it to her. I asked her to eat without disturbing her daddy @work. Then i went to the dr office.it was 8.15 am then.

when I came back at 12noon, she was still in the sofa eating her bread. my BP just shooted up..what in the earth??Breakfast for 4 hours....?? i did give her some nice dose of advice and gave her a time out. I asked her to remain in the family room and that i wouldn't talk to her, nor could she talk to me. but of course she kept on talking to me, but she did remain in the room. This is one of the biggest timeouts ever.

Then I gave in and went on with the day...but now she is little aware of the concept of being grounded and that is definitely good. At least she understands that there will consequences to her actions.

Kumon.

Yesterday we went to Kumon for a seminar.We have decided to enroll Farah in Kumon. Kumon is more or less like a tutoring center except that they put you in a level in which you are currently a master. you progress at your own pace unlike schools. We have been thinking abt making this decision for quite sometime and it took us so long to do it.
She will be starting in level 7A which is like the first level. She was given a series of test both in Math and Reading. She did very well in both. The instructors were pleased.so were we.
I hope and pray that this is a good start for her.

silly

Okay This is really funny...I caught Farah picking some paper bits from the floor and eating it ;)

I asked her immediately," Why are u doing that?? Don't do that!! Are u a donkey?? Only Donkeys eat paper!!" Her reply was so spontaneous..."Yes mummy, I am donkey :) see" and kept on eating more papers....!! Show me a place where I can bang my head!! [:)]

Latest Accomplishments!!

Farah is doing great at school. she even got her quarterly evaluation report. she had good remarks from her teacher.

One complaint from her teacher was that she finishes her job quickly and interrupts with other kids while they are working on their activity and bosses them around. but her teacher said that this quality will help her leadership qualities when she grows older...keeping my fingers crossed.

she has mastered writing A-Z and number 1-10. I sometimes think the school system here is not adequate enough for her. special schools cost more. I have decided to keep encouraging her at home until we find something to improve her abilities and bring it out in a positive way.

A new year has begun. and Insha Allah Farah will be turning 3 this month..hope all is well this year as it was last year..

Farah is off to school!

Farah's school started on September 4th, which just reminds me that my first day of college was exactly 10 years earlier on September 3rd. How time flies by is so surprising!!

There are 12 kids in her class and 3 teachers. I had to put her in school even though she was 2 and half only cause, i just knew that she was so ready for it..and waiting for the 3 year old cut off did not seem right.

She didn't shed a tear, she hugged me, kissed and said "i will see u later mommy" and then waved good bye and just went inside. I thought it was going to be much more dramatic than that, but it was not. It was so simple.I am grateful to Allah for that.

There were a few kids who just cried and cried the entire school time.On one hand i was thanking God, on the other i was thinking that Farah just didn't mind missing me and she was not as attached to me as i thought she was..which was so sad for me.

I waited the whole 90 minutes waiting for her outside the class room. I guess, i was the one who was too attached to her. she came running towards me and hugged me and said those golden words,"I am so glad to see u mommy". I was just taken away by her love. I had no doubt that she loved me and that "unconditional love" was just so pure and the most sought after thing in this whole world. There is no comparison to it.I have it. what more do I need?

It was really a good start, Masha Allah, and hope it stays that way, the rest of her life.I just pray that she embraces each new thing that happens to her with such confidence and enthusiasm that she showed on her first day of school.

Farah Sleeps in her own room!!

Finally Farah has started sleeping alone in her room. it has been quite a journey with Farah since she was born. People here say that we have to let the baby sleep separately right from the start. But I totally disagree. we were not brought up like that. we turned out good. our confidence level is much higher that most people here.

Of course it made us dependent on our parents to a certain extent, but it is not wrong. they are our parents. i believe if the kids are dependent on the parents to a certain extent( not too much), then there is no way they will choose the wrong path in life. If there is a problem, the first person they should turn to should be parents. They must believe their parents are there for them no matter what.

so coming back to what i was saying, these past 30 months was a slow step by step process in moving farah to her own room. we both felt comfortable and that too for me specially, i wanted to avoid any guilt feeling of leaving her alone in her own room. But now time has come and she is very much ready to sleep in her own room. this past month has been wonderful. there were frequent night time visits to her room, even without her knowledge but i don't mind it.

Hurray my girl is potty trained!!

I have been waiting for 3 weeks to post this.my girl is potty trained at last.no more diapers, no more messes :)
I started her to train last november when in India. That is the best place to at least start the training. She responded well for the idea of going potty. But there were accidents now and then. some embarrassing situations here and there, but finally our persistence paid off.
now she is more independent and free.
every time i think i should post about she becoming diaper free there would be an accident. let's see what happens today night, crossing my fingers :)